Life Of A Blogger #63

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This week’s topic: Goals & Dreams

Goals is an easy one! Dreams, not so much.

GOALS:

  • Buy a house: This is pretty simple. I don’t want to rent forever. Besides that, I’m in a bit of an odd rental situation because the house I rent is on a month to month basis because it is attached to a larger piece of property that the owner hopes to sale. That sale may happen 10 years from now or next week, but that thought is always in the back of my head worrying me. If I bought a house, I’d have a whole new set of worries, but that wouldn’t be one of them.
  • Have a child: Wanna know a secret? With each passing day, my desire for a child increases. I don’t feel like I’m at a place in my life that I’m really ready for that, but I also feel like I’m never going to feel ready so I should just jump in. My husband wants kids whenever I’m ready to start popping them out, so I just have to make my mind up on the when. I do want kids one day, I’m just not sure I’m ready for the total life change that would entail. Not to mention the money. Yeah, let’s not think about how much babies cost.

That’s pretty much all my goals for the moment. I’m not looking to achieve much in the near future, just continue to create a life for myself and my husband.

DREAMS:

  • Own a bookstore: I really don’t think this will ever happen, but it’s always a hope in the back of my head.
  • That’s pretty much it! I don’t want a whole lot in my life. Sure, I’d love to be able to drop everything and go back to school and study something crazy like Japanese, but even as a teenager I was too pragmatic to do that. Now all I really want is a house to call my own and to not be filled with terror at the idea of bringing a child into this world. That’s not too much to ask, right? What’s the line from that 3 Doors Down song? “And all she wants is just a little piece of this dream, is that too much to ask? With a safe home and a warm bed on a quite little street. All she wants is just that something to hold on to.” That’s me. I don’t want extravagance because I know that is out of my reach. I’m upper lower class/lower middle class with no creative inspiration or skills that would make me a multimillionaire. That sounds pessimistic, but it’s not. I’m being realistic and I’m okay with that. I just want a nice little life.

    What about you? What are your goals? Dreams? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #62

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This week’s topic: Achievements!

Um…..So this post is a week late because I’ve completely blanked on my life accomplishments. I’m not a very proud or confident person, so I have a hard time acknowledging the good things. I did graduate 7th in my class from high school. And that was after failing on class and getting a D in another. Second semester senior year it really hit me that college wasn’t an a real option for me. At least not a typical university education. I had no money for college and wasn’t exceedingly poor. I’m not well off either. I’m upper lower class…you know that nice spot where you make just enough to not qualify for government assistance, but not enough to really get anywhere. That’s me. That’s my parents as well. They had no money saved for this and no intention of really helping me pay for it. The longer I sat in the library looking at the cost of tuition and housing and food, plus interest rates on loans, the more I realize that it wasn’t going to happen. I didn’t even know what I wanted to study. Well…that’s not true. I wanted to study Japanese, but had no idea what I would have done with that. I couldn’t make myself go into that much debt over a learning experience that promised no means of paying the money back. After that, I kinda gave up. I made sure I passed the class I was taking that I needed to graduate, but I didn’t care much beyond that. Imagine what would have happened if I’d kept my determination? I could have been fucking valedictorian.

ANYWAY, beyond that, I don’t know. I’m happily married, so I guess that’s an accomplishment. No homeownership yet or kids, just us and the dogs and a rental house that I’m currently in love with. I’m employed and have been with the same company since 2008.

Book-Blog-wise, I have over 50 followers (slowing climbing to 100) and I’ve gotten to a point where I get several views a day. That doesn’t really sound like an accomplishment, but trust me, when I first started and there were days where I’d beg my husband or friends to look at my website just so I’d have a view or two that day. That’s pathetic, but no less true. I’ve been interviewed and quote a few authors know me by name now. I’m even quoted on Tellulah Darling’s blog (on the page with info on My Life From Hell). I’ve also gotten to the point where I get approved more than denied for the books I want to read. I still get denied plenty, but not as many as I used to!

I really think that’s it. How pathetic is that? What about you? What have you accomplished? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #61

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This week’s topic: Bad habits
Ooo…that’s a doozy. I have a ton of bad habits. Well, bad is up for interpretation, but I’ll go for the ones that the general public considers bad.

  • I swear like a fucking sailor – I feel like I’ve been a bit subdued in this area on the blog lately, but in real life, I have a potty mouth from hell. Though I rather like this quality about myself, I know society frowns upon it.
  • Procrastination – I procrastinate on everything! I put it off until the very last minute. In school, it worked well because I was always more creative at the last minute than any other time. I would sit down and try to write a paper or work on a project right after it was assigned and get nowhere fast. But the night before it was due? Suddenly my synapses were firing tons of ideas my way. It doesn’t work as well as an adult. I know if I just do whatever it is now and get it over with it would work better, but I can’t ever seem to make myself do it.
  • Not responding to blog comments – This isn’t me being antisocial or not checking or not caring. I genuinely love every single person who has left a comment on one of my posts. BUT I DON’T KNOW WHAT TO SAY BACK! Do I go in-depth and over the top answer? Do I leave a flippant “thanks for commenting!” remark? Is the commenter even going to check back to see that I responded? X_X ::hides::
  • Avoiding housework – I work full time (as does my husband) and then I come home and read and blog and do anything possible to ignore that stack of laundry or those dishes for just one more day. This probably ties into the procrastination thing, but I hate housework. I would make a terrible housewife. I hate cleaning, I can’t cook, and the idea of sitting home all day gives me cabin fever, much less the reality of it.

Is that it? That might be it! I reserve the right to add to this list as time goes on! What about you? What are some of your bad habits? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #60

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This week’s topic: Scars (that you have)

When I saw the topic of this post, I immediately got big ideas. I could do a collection of pictures of all my scars with the stories that go with them! It could be gruesome and gory and epic. Know what I learned? I’m a shitty photographer (unless I’m at a concern and then I’m pretty good) and the few scars that I haven’t outgrown don’t photograph well! I’ll tell you a bit about them, but I know it isn’t the same without visual stimuli.

The first set of scars is probably my biggest set. There are four in total. There is a scrapped spot on my left arm and my hand (just above my wrist) as well as a spot on my left knee and ankle. They are all from a bike accident when I was around 10. I was riding around late (late for a 10 year old) at night and hit a big rock and crashed horribly. Obviously, I feel on my left side. I was also completely alone, so I had to walk my happy ass home with my bike. Good times! My mom jokes that I got in a fight with the asphalt and lost.

There is a set of two 2 inch long line type scars on my left calf. The story there is nothing special. I was sitting at a friends house, in a chair where the arm rests have fallen off. It has exposed nails where the armrests go and I forgot and got up too fast. It hurt like a bitch and bleed A LOT.

I honestly think those are the only ones I have now. I had bunches as a kid. I was a wild, fearless thing that wasn’t scare of falling down, so I got hurt constantly. I have outgrown most of them, though! Do you have any awesome scars? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #59

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This week’s topic: New Years

Happy New Year! I don’t have any plans this year. I’m not a partier, so I don’t do that. I’m too cheap to pay for TV, opting for Netflix and a massive DVD library instead, so I won’t be watching the ball drop. I’ll probably be sitting at home reading or working on this blog or watching TV with my husband. If option three is the winner, it’ll be Doctor Who, almost certainly because we’ve been bingeing on that lately.

No resolutions for me this year either! Well, beyond the same unfulfilled ones from last year. Go to the gym more, eat better, blog harder, the same old shit. 🙂

What about you? Big plans for New Years? Great new resolutions? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #57

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This week’s topic: Before 2014 ends (things you want to do)

There isn’t anything I definitely need to get done before the year is out. I’d would like to get my library reorganized, but that all depends on when my dad gets finished building my new shelves. I don’t have much control over that! I can reorganize with the shelves I have, but it seems stupid to do that when I know I have new shelves coming soon(ish). I would also like to get my Room Of Doom organized. When I moved in to this house in March, we organized by rooms. Our clothes and stuff went into the bedroom, toiletries in the bathroom, entertainment stuff in the living room, cookware and food in the kitchen, books in the library. Everyone else we put into the spare room. As you can imagine, that room got really crowded really fast. We worked on it a bit right after we moved in and then life resumed as normal and as much as we want to clean and organize it, we never seem to have the time and/or energy to get it done.

Those are the only two things that I’d like to see happen before the end of the year. I don’t hold high hopes that they’ll get accomplished, but I can dream! What about you? What do you want to achieve before the year is out? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #56

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This week’s topic: Freebie – Crafts

I have never been an overly creative person. I can’t draw a stick figure, I suck at computer graphics…and coming up with out of the box ideas? My husband is definitely the creative one of the pair. He makes jewelry, fiddles with sketching, spends hours making things on Minecraft. But I was looking around on Etsy a few weeks ago and saw these awesome book charms for sale and thought I could try my hand at that. If I’m making them myself, I can customize however I want and those would make amazing Christmas/birthday/just because gifts for my friends. I went to my local craft stores and filled up a cart with supplies, came home, and proceeded to search the internet for instructions. I spent half of Saturday and all of Sunday playing around with this concept. The result? I have made two complete charms. TWO. It took hours to to complete each one and it’s tedious as hell to cut out all the paper and glue it together and then wait for it all to dry. I actually made three, but I fucked up the last one at the last possible moment. The really awesome thing is they are like little bitty real books. The tutorial I watched had you make it where the charm you make opens like a real book and it’s the coolest thing ever. Even after slaving way too long over them, I still couldn’t help but be proud that I created these little things. I’m far from perfect and I still need a few more supplies (and a bunch more practice), but I think this is one hobby I’ll stick with.

Book #1:
Book #1 Shell
Book #1 Complete

Book #2:
Book #2 Front
Book #2 Side

What are some of your hobbies? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #55

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This week’s topic: Where You Live

I live in North Carolina in the US of A. It’s actually perfect whether-wise because we get the best of both worlds. In the summer, we get the heat but not so sweltering you think you’ll die. In the winter, we get a good snow once or twice (and by good, I mean 2 – 8 inches), but it never gets horrible. When it does snow, it’s almost comical because things actually close due to snow. People here go nuts and some won’t even leave their homes for fear of driving in the snow.

It’s also perfect because I’m relatively close to both the ocean and the mountains. Three hours south gets me to Myrtle Beach SC and three hours north gets me to Boone, which is part of the Appalachian Mountains. It’s pretty most of the time. As a kid, I really thought I’d move away when I grew up, but now, I can’t see myself doing that. Anywhere else I go, I’ll have to deal with crazier whether and even though I love the snow, I feel like if I go somewhere where it snows constantly, it’ll lose some of it’s magic. I have that whole Lorelei Gilmore relationship with snow. It’s so pretty and perfect and magical. It feels like the universe’s present to me.

What about you? Where do you live? Let me know in the comments!

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Life Of A Blogger #54

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This week’s topic: Thanksgiving Traditions

I don’t really have many. When I was a kid, my dad used to go to 4 or 5 different people’s homes for Thanksgiving so he could load up with enough food and take-home plates to feed him for a week. Since becoming an adult and living on my own (or rather, with my husband) I wouldn’t say we have any specific traditions. We go to my uncle’s house because his wife is an amazing cook and we visit with them. We visit with my dad because he is always there too. We go to my husband’s parent’s house and visit with them. We usually don’t eat there because my mother-in-law isn’t the best of cooks. We visit for a little bit with them and then go to my mom’s. I eat at my mom’s because she is a good cook when she puts her mind to it. Hang out there a few house and that’s it. I think I’ve mentioned several times before that we aren’t really a sports family, so at no point will I be watching football and I don’t really care for the parade either.

In the past few years, we have hit up the black Friday sales. I love the late night shopping and the amazingly cheap DVDs. That’s mostly what I go for, shows and movies. The big ticket items electronics and toys don’t interest me at all. I’m a bit annoyed that this year the sales will start at 6. That’s bullshit that they’ll start early. I liked the late night feel and the all. I’d like to say it pisses me off enough that I won’t go this year, but I think we all know that isn’t true. I can’t resist a good deal. I definitely won’t be waiting outside the doors for them to open this year though.

What about you? What are your Thanksgiving traditions? Let me know in the comments!

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